We hear it all the time, so much that at this point it makes me sick when somebody says it. I’m talking about the phrase “You must learn how to love yourself to be happy,” or “You must love yourself first before you can love someone else.” Ok, I get it!
But then when you ask, “well, how do I do it?” and there is no response…
It’s almost like the words love yourself is just a phrase that everyone throws around without knowing what it really means.
well, it stops here and now!
So what the hell does “love yourself” mean? And how do you do it?
In the following article, I’m going to explain to you what exactly the act of “loving yourself” Means, and how you can begin doing it.
That way you don’t have a meaningless phrase, but a logical understanding of a concept that can change your life 1000%!
You Tell Me To Love Myself, But Why?
Let me ask you, why do you love your phone or your car?
Because they are valuable right?
- Your car is of value to you because it takes you vast distances in a relatively short amount of time.
- Your phone is valuable because it allows you to communicate with people who are not around you.
What about Gold and our mothers, why are they valuable?
Same. People love Gold because it’s valuable; it can be formed into many useful things.You love your mom because she loves you, and since she provides you will love she is of value to you.
You get the point!
So is it safe to say that we love things that we consider valuable?
I think so! That is why we would die for our loved ones but not for a convict. We understand that some lives are of more value than others; depending on the usefulness of the person. But we also know that all life is valuable.
So the point I’m trying to get to is that you can’t possibly love yourself if you don’t honestly consider yourself valuable. Not just saying it, but really really feeling it, 100%.
And that’s the problem with people telling people to love themselves; They don’t know if the person they’re saying that to actually values themselves.
What Makes You Valuable?
Why should you value yourself, if there are 7 billion other people in the world and you are just an extra one?
According to economics the value of something drops with the more there is of it; that’s why sand is valueless. Also why gold remains valuable, and anything else scarce is valuable.
So, If anything, if you were to die, that would mean more resources for everybody else!
Therefore just because you are you; that does not make you valuable.
Is It Because I Say I’m Valuable, And I Believe It?
Well, do you really believe it? Or it is a logical fallacy?
If this is the truth; if we can assign a value to something without any reason what so ever, then can I say a rock in my backyard is extremely valuable, and it suddenly becomes it?
Absolutely not! It makes no sense.
Therefore you cannot assign yourself value; you have to be valuable to say you’re valuable.
Lastly, If Anybody Can Love Themselves, Then Does/Can A Rapist Love Himself?
If loving yourself is as easy as they say, then can a rapist who has molested dozens of women and girls. Can he love himself? Even though he’s committed all those atrocities.
Probably not, right?
Here’s Where True Value Comes From
Your true value comes from this powerful word; Potentiality.
Think of gold; As soon as you find a piece of formless gold on the ground somewhere, it is highly valuable even though this gold has no form or any more use than a regular rock.
Why is that?
Because of the potential that gold has to be something useful; like a chain, or a watch, or a toilet. (yes toilet, ask Birdman)
You are the same; you and everybody else! From the moment a human baby is born he is super valuable because he has the potential to become an asset to society; if he makes the right choices of course.
Just like the gold, in the beginning, that baby is not going to be very useful, but as time passes and that baby forms into a knowledgeable adult, he can then help society, and make significant changes in it for the better.
So you see, you are gold, and if you haven’t achieved much yet or helped society for the better, then you are gold that is in the process of becoming this useful instrument.
You can be a useful person that helps change the world. And it doesn’t have to be the world as a whole, but it can be the world around you; your town, your workplace; your family. Remember one small change can make a big difference.
There you have it, that is the real reason why you should love yourself; because you have so much potential. Potential to change the world and be of use and value to someone else, or many other people. All you have to do is make the right choices, know your potential, and most importantly, live up to it!
How to live up to your potential and your value?
- Make the right choices
- Choose what you love to do as a career
- Make sure what you choose to do benefits society
- Understand the potential you have to make a difference
- Understand how valuable you are to society
- Make it your purpose to help others
- Have a full understanding of morality (the bible is good for this)
- Be humble
- Be generous
- Stay in your lane
- Follow your heart/Instincts
- Always chase and tell the truth
- Look at everything logically
- Be optimistic about everything
Adopt all those points into your life, and along with your already existing enormous potential; you remain and even acquire so much more value. You will be of so much use to the world that at that point you will be able to say to yourself honestly; “I LOVE MYSELF!”