How To Make Her Feel Special (12 Psychological Tips)

So you got her… That girl you’ve desired for ages finally gave you a chance. Now you want to make sure you know how to make her feel special.

Not only because you want to keep her, but you want her to realize that you’re irreplaceable. Make her feel so special that her love for you sparks into a blazing fire.

If this is your goal, then forget everything you’ve been told up to this point on how to make her feel special, it’s all BS.

Instead, let’s take a dive into the psychology of women. Learn how you can use it to your advantage, and make her believe there’s not a man in the universe that can make her as happy as you.

#1 Tell her how unique she is from other girls

How to make her feel special

“OMG Becky, look at her butt, it’s like sooo Big!” 

One thing women can’t help doing is comparing women to women, they do it all the time, it’s part of their DNA. 

Women do it with celebrities; they do it with their friends, and most importantly, they do it with themselves.

But why?

Well, if you think about it, it makes a lot of sense… 


A big chunk if a woman’s value comes from her ability to give birth and nurse her offspring. 


Evolutionary science now shows us that the physical attractiveness of a woman is basically acting as a gauge for men to tell just how fertile and healthy that woman is. In turn, giving those men the ability to choose the best mate for the fittest offspring. (Study)

With this understanding is easy to see why women spend billions a year on makeup and why they are so concerned with how they look and how other women look. 

Being the most fertile and healthy amongst women allows her to rise to the top of the hierarchy; securing the most resources, and allowing for the best life.

Now, it’s your job to expose this;

Use it to your advantage!

Even though your girl might not be the most attractive woman around, objectively speaking, you can make her feel like she is. 

  • You can make her feel special by telling her how much better she is than every other girl around you. 
  • You can tell her how much more beautiful she is than any other girl you’ve ever dated. 
  • Tell her how out of all her friends she stands out as the most bright and attractive.

The key to doing this is to be detailed in what you tell her, this will let her know you’re not just bluffing.

Examples; 

  • “Babe you have the most amazing eyes, I don’t think I’ve ever dated a girl as beautiful as you.”
  • “Babe that dress looks terrific on you, I think you’re the only one that could pull off that look.”
  • “Jeez babe, I’ve never had a girl make me feel the way you do, I just can’t explain it.”

You get the point.

To make her feel special, whisper something that makes her feel like she is unique compared to every other woman on the planet. Soon she will start believing the praise and will want to keep you around to remind her!

#2 Tell her how she makes you feel.

How to make her feel special

Remember that scene in the notebook when Allie returns from talking to Lon, and Noah meets her out by the grass? 

Remember how, after a bit of back and forth, arguing, Noah pours out his heart and blurts out how he feels about her?

If you don’t, it goes something like this; 

Allie: “Stay with you? What for? Look at us, we’re already fighting!”

Noah: “Well that’s what we do! We fight! You tell me when I’m being an arrogant son of a bitch, and I tell you when you’re being a pain in the ass! Which you are, 99% of the time. I’m not afraid to hurt your feelings. They have like a two-second rebound rate and your back doing the next pain in the ass thing.”

Allie: “So what?”

Noah: “So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s gonna be really hard, and we’re gonna have to work at this every day but I wanna do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever. You and me, every day. 

After this, Allie’s heart melts, and she begins to cry, just like every other girl who’s ever watched his scene.

So what’s so powerful about what Noah did? Why is telling a girl how you feel about her hit on a different level?

It makes her feel safe and valued, that’s why.

The scary thing about falling in love with somebody is that you can’t read their mind. You assume and even hope that this person is feeling the same emotions that you feel for them. And if they don’t, which happens, and it can be heartbreaking. 

When you tell a girl how you feel about her, you’re making her feel special because; 

  1. You’re letting her know there is no reason for her to feel vulnerable around you since you feel the same deep feelings for her. 
  2. It heightens her sense of self-worth since she knows that someone appreciates her and adores her.

This feeling of safety and joy will make her see you as her protector, and she will not want to lose that, ever!

DO NOT overdo this tip; frequency results in loss of potency. You want to express your feelings for her occasionally; after an argument usually works brilliantly!

#3 Make her feel special through words, be detailed in what you love about her

How to make her feel special

This tip is exposing what we already went over in tip one, which is; Women love to feel unique in comparison to other women.

Now, a more practical approach… The keyword here is DETAIL!

Influence experts, Dan and Chip Heath, write the following in their best selling book Made to stick…

“concrete details don’t just lend credibility to the authorities who provide them; they lend credibility to the idea itself.”

But why?


When you give details, it is a sign that you have not only experienced but put massive thought into the idea you are trying to convey. 


So if you tell your girl, “Babe, you’re beautiful.” 

It’s cute and all, but it’s broad. Every guy says that so she won’t find it believable. 

But if instead, you say, “Babe, I love the way your hair looks when you tie it back, it really exposes those attractive edges within your face, I just find that so damn beautiful.”  

After a statement like that, she’ll realize how much of her you actually notice. She’ll also believe your compliment is genuine because you put so much thought into it. 

And that’s how to make her feel special with words!

#4 Do things for her that take effort.

How to make her feel special

You can survive on just words for a while, but once your girl sees that you’re not backing them up with action, she’ll realize you’re just sweet-talking her.

Like the saying goes… “Talk is cheap!”

To truly make your girl feel special on a different level, put in actual effort into the things you do for her. 

And I mean OUT OF THE ORDINARY EFFORT. Not just common, flowers on Valentine, or dinner night on anniversary dates. You have to go above and beyond anything any other guy has ever done for her before, be memorable. 

Here are some examples;

  • Find out through her parents or friends what her favorite flowers are, and send them to her job. 
  • Find out if she’s behind on any work or school assignments, and surprise her by doing it for her.
  • When she wakes up in the morning, surprise her with her favorite breakfast.
  • Surprise her with concert tickets to her favorite artist.
  • Take a quick course on massaging and give her a quality massage. 
  • Clean her car
  • Write her a love letter
  • Get her a puppy
  • Write her a song if you’re into music
  • Send Mariachis to her house if she’s Hispanic.
  • Make her a romantic Youtube video.

See how unique and personalized each idea is? That’s the key… Get creative…

Make her feel like she will never ever! Find another guy who will give her this type of treatment and put in that type of effort.

#5 Make her feel like she’s part of a love story.

How to make her feel special

Whether she tells you or not, every woman wants her own love story, that’s the reason why chick flicks and romance movies are top-rated among females. 

Remember Titanic?

23 years later, Jack and Rose still hold the third spot in all-time grossing movies!

So how in the world do you make her feel like she’s part of a love story?

Adventure, that’s how.

Before Jack, Rose was bored and understimulated in her life. She was so sick of routine that she even tried to kill herself!

But then Jack, the hero, appeared, and he offered her a new side of life. One filled with novelty, romance, and even a little danger. All this gave Rose loads of motivation (dopamine), making her feel like she needed more and more.

Adventure brings novelty, and it’s no secret that novelty makes us feel good

Don’t let the relationship become routine like and predictable like every other relationship she’s had, she will become bored like Rose. 

If you want to make her feel special, then it’s your job to come up with adventurous things to do. Make them spontaneous and even a little dangerous, it will just add to the thrill!

Examples;

  • Go sky-diving
  • Travel to a new place you guys have never been to
  • Get intimate in random exciting places
  • Do new activities every weekend 
  • Do something challenging together

#6 Tell her how she makes you a better man.

How to make her feel special

One thing about women that puzzles guys is their attraction towards bad boys. And logically speaking, it makes no sense that women are attracted to arrogant, emotionally unstable, aggressive men who mistreat them and cheat on them. 

You can find out more why this occurs in this article, where we dive deep into why women love bad boys. But one of the reasons why some women love these bad boys is because they need FIXING!

Psychologist Seth Meyers Psy.D. wrote an article on the topic, and he calls these women “The rescuers.” Because they want to be the ones to change this man into a good competent guy that can be good to her. 

Dr. Meyers explains that these women want to help this broken guy reach his true potential, and she does this because other men who are her equals and who are emotionally available often seem dull. 

Unfortunately, it rarely works, and she usually ends up disappointed and hurt. But what does this have to do with making her feel special?

Everything! 


Not every woman is a full-on rescuer, but there is a little rescuer in every woman.


Meaning that your girl wants to make you a better man; she wants to feel that with her by your side, you are improving. Your girl wants to think that she’s making a difference in your life.

Therefore, pretty evident at this point…

Your job to make your girl feel special is to tell her and give her real examples of how she has actually caused you to be a better man.

Examples;

  • “Babe, you’re such a blessing; before you came into my life, I was a huge mess.”
  • “Babe, thank you for your support, it’s helped me get so far these past few months.
  • “Babe, you make me a better man, I appreciate you so much.”

#7 Remember all the special occasions.

How to make her feel special

SHE WANTS TO KNOW YOU’RE THINKING ABOUT HER!

It’s just how women are, it’s in their nature. 

So when you FORGET a special date like her birthday or an anniversary, that’s the quickest way to make her feel unloved. And it can’t be undone, she will remember FOREVER, DON’T DO IT.

But as destructive as it can be to forget, it is equally as spectacular when you remember!

Plan ahead and surprise her with a lovely act; this lets her know not only did you remember, but you were looking forward to it as well.

#8 Show her off on your social media

Social media is pretty predictable; we basically post about the stuff that is most important to us.

  • A person who’s into dogs will snap and post a pic of their dogs daily
  • Someone proud of their career will post a work selfie.
  • A proud conservative will break the internet with leftist memes

And so on…

Therefore, by posting about her, you make it clear that;

  1. She’s important to you
  2. you’re not ashamed of her
  3. You don’t have a side chick 

Talk about killing 3 birds with one post!

#9 Call or text often to let her know she’s on your mind

Again, women want to be the center of your world. And some even want to be your ENTIRE world (be careful with those).

If it’s been a few hours since you last heard from each other, then send that cute random text.

 “Babe, I miss you.”

This is how you can make her feel special everyday, consistency.

Easy and powerful.

#10 Do the “manly” jobs.

What’s the fastest way to turn a woman off?

Let her open the pickle jar.

Look, every woman secretly wants to be a princess, and she can’t be that unless she’s made to feel like one by prince charming.

If she’s the one mowing the lawn, repairing the TV, and killing the bugs, then she is no princess. Princesses don’t do that!

By you taking on those “manly” roles, you let your woman take on her princess roles. And for that, she will feel supported and feminine.

Plus, men who do “manly” shores get laid more… 

No joke… check out this study.

#11 Talk about your future plans with her.

Men want to get laid, and women want to get wifed-up; it’s the way it’s always been.

No matter how long you’ve been with her or how well you treat her, she’s always going to have that voice of doubt telling her, “Is he the one, or will he leave you?”

Give her a sense of security. Show her that you’re committed and are here to stay; that’s how to make a woman feel loved and secure.

You can do so by telling her where you can see the two of you in 5 years.

Example;

 “babe, when I graduate college in 3 years, I want us to buy a house together.”

After you say this, don’t be surprised if she gives you the puppy eyes.

#12 Make intimacy all about her.

Did you know studies show that up to 50% of women don’t reach climax during intimacy?

Wanna know how to make her feel special? DO NOT let her be part of the women in that statistic!

See, the problem lies in where men place their focus during sex, which most of the time is on themselves.

To please her, you must place your focus on her.

You must;

  • Learn her spots
  • Take your time
  • Make her feel comfortable
  • Ask her what she wants
  • Make her feel your passion

Do this, and with time she’ll begin to feel like you were tailor made for her personal sexual pleasure. 

And don’t worry, once she’s fully satisfied she’ll make sure she returns the favor 😉

#recap

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