A series of events have led you to finally ask that universal question every maturing person arrives at, at some point in life. Am I ready to move out?
Whether you arrived at this question out of desperation or if it’s something you’ve had on your mind for a while, either way, it’s a big decision that one must consider carefully.
For it will be a life-changing one…
But no need to worry!
The following article will provide you with 13 signs that you are indeed ready to leave the nest.
If you display 2 or more of the following signs, then the time has come to make that move (pun intended).
You will need a moving plan (checklist), one which will also be provided here. We will look over costs and living essentials required for your new independence.
So pay close attention, we want to make sure you don’t regret this decision once it hits home. 😉
#1 You don’t get along with the people you live with (parents)
This sign is #1 for a reason, it’s a biggie.
If your current environment has been one of toxicity and negativity for longer than six months, and you see no light at the end of this tunnel, it’s time to GO.
The consequences of living in a toxic environment aren’t worth it. The damage done by the mental and emotional stress can be longterm.
In fact, a study that followed more than 10,000 participants for an average of 12.2 years, discovered that participants in negative relationships were at a higher risk for developing heart problems.
Although most research around toxic relationships is around couples. It can be assumed that the relationship between cohabitating family members is comparable, since they interact daily and can be just as close.
There is no reason to be stressing yourself and your parents out with ongoing conflict, manifesting in the form of arguments and grudges.
Beware, one or two fights is not a good enough reason to move out—it must be ongoing daily conflict.
And if there is violence, then start packing NOW!
#2 You feel like a caged bird.
This sign is for the adventurous overachiever type.
You know… the type of people who got straight As in school, all while assisting 2 clubs (debate and theatre) and playing soccer, baseball, football, and golf.
If you’re this type of person, and right now, you’re feeling like being at home in stunting your growth… well… you’re right.
People high in openness cannot reach their full potential while caged, they need to be able to fly!
As an open individual you thrive off of adventure. This is because it stimulates your mind, in turn, allowing you to express your genius creative powers.
Charles Darwin was also the adventurous personality type, according to Psychology Today. And before Darwin went on to discover and propose his theory, he also struggled with leaving home, for him, it was a scary decision.
One that Charles eventually made, and allowed him to go on to become the father of the theory of evolution.
Can you imagine if he let fear win and never left home? We would not be talking about him right now!
“If it excites you and scares you at the same time, it probably means you should do it.”-Unknown
#3 You’re a man over the age of 24
What’s a good age to move out of your parents’ house?
The honest answer is it depends. The optimal answer is age 24, here’s why…
Assuming that you took the conventional path into adulthood. You should have begun college at 18 and graduated by 22 with a B.A. That leaves two years to either continue school for a 2yr graduate degree, or to find a job to save money for 2 yrs and move out by 24.
If you chose the workforce route, then those 6 years from 18 to 24 should be enough time to grow within your field, and save enough to move out of your parents’ house.
If neither route was taken, and right now, you’re 24 or older sitting at home clueless on what to do next, then it’s time to GO!
By staying home you’re being coddled by the safety net that your parents provide, and this is severely stunting your growth as a man.
You need a shocking experience, one that will get you moving in the direction of self-sufficiency and competence. And what better experience than one of having to survive on your own? No safety net, no coddling, just you!
That sink or swim mentally is what will bring out your true potential, that warrior within that’s dying to come out! (it’s what navy seal training does)
Of course, there are exceptions;
- you’re building a business and need more time
- you came back from military service
- Currently live with a single mother
- you have some sort of disability
- you’re making your way back from major emotional trauma
- You’re recuperating from some kind of addiction
#4 You feel you need a metamorphosis
Two kinds of people;
Those who have always known what they want to do in life, and those that don’t. This sign is for those that don’t.
It can be frustrating going about life working the same job you hate, only to come home to have your parents nag you about your lack of direction. At some point It can begin to feel like an eternal routine that makes you wonder… what’s the point of even living?
If this is your current situation, then it may be time for a complete change. You need a totally unknown environment where you can start over as a whole new person.
A new state perhaps…
This change won’t guarantee that you’ll find your calling, but it increases the probability that your will.
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.”Albert Einstein
#5 You make more than enough money each month
How much should I save to move out? How much do I need to make to live on my own?
Those are the most common questions when it comes to making this decision, and with apparent reason. You don’t want to end up on the street!
how much cash you really need to be making to move out?
The following infographic is made up of essential bills you need to live comfortably. It reflects U.S. averages gathered from all across the web. Add up the bills you believe you’ll have, and you’ll get an approximation of your living expenses.
Assuming that you’ll need every single expense on there (you probably won’t) and that it’s all at that amount (it’ll probably be less), then you’ll be at $1,723.15 thus far.
What about rent?
The average rent of a one-bedroom apartment by major city (2020)
|New York City||$2,891|
|St. Louis, Missouri||$988|
|Kansas City, Missouri||$873|
|New Orleans, Louisiana||$1,071|
|Albuquerque, New Mexico||$744|
|Salt Lake City, Utah||$1,087|
|Las Vegas, Nevada||$936|
|San Francisco, CA||$3,438|
|Los Angeles, CA||$2,308|
Add the rent of where you wish to live, to the essential expense, and you have your total expenses for the month.
Ex: Seattle: $1,857 + $1,723.15 = $3,580.15
Leaving another 500 bucks for personal expenses; it is probably save to say that if you make $4,200 a month, then you’re ready to move to Seattle!
#6 You’re sexually active
Your parents don’t need to hear you putting in work in the bedroom. If you’re man enough to put it down, then you’re man enough to live on your own.
#7 You’re ok with being lonely.
It’s common to think that when you move out, you’ll always be surrounded by your friends and girls, but most often than not, that’s not the case.
Don’t get me wrong, at first, you’ll throw rad parties and have numerous friends and girls over. But over time, those parties and that company become less and less frequent. Eventually, it’ll be just you, all alone.
So, make sure coming home to an empty home isn’t a problem for you. If it is, and you’re not sure how to handle loneliness, check out this article on how to be happy alone.
Other than that, you should be good! Hopefully, you don’t believe in ghosts.
#8 You have good credit.
Here’s a small list of what you need good credit for;
- Rent at most apartments
- Buy any property
- To get an optimal loan for a car
- To Buy furniture
- Buy home electronics
- Purchase home appliances
- Pay for expensive repairs and services
Sure, there are ways you can get around these obstacles, but it will COST YOU. So if you don’t have credit, get started fast!
#9 It’s been on your mind for longer than 6 months.
Again, moving out is a serious decision, it changes your life pretty significantly. For that reason, you want to make sure moving out is not just a passing thought that randomly entered your mind.
To make sure it’s for real, use the 6-month rule.
The 6-month rule gives you the time to think about and go through changes in emotion. Emotions that otherwise would force you to make impulsive decisions that you’ll later regret.
For a decision like this, you must remain logical. Really take the time to visualize life on your own, both the good and the bad parts. I recommend that you make a list of pros and cons to see where the most weight lies.
#10 You have or are about to have your own family
When living at home, your father is in charge of the family. He is the dictator, the alpha, and the king of the jungle. It’s how the hierarchy works.
Now, when you build your own family, it’s your turn to be at the top of the hierarchy. For that reason, you cannot stay home, there can’t be two Alphas. Conflict will ensue…
As an honorable man, it’s your duty to move out and protect and provide for your family.
#11 Your Goals are in Another Location
In today’s day in age, competition is fierce, and that’s in any field; acting, singing, entrepreneurship, medicine, you name it!
To have the best chance of participating in whatever it is that you want to do for a living, you must go to the source.
So, for example, if I have dreams of becoming an actor, guess where I’m going? That’s right, HOLLYWOOD!
Move to where the source of your career lies.
Here are a few;
- New York
- Los Angeles
- New York
- San Francisco
- New York
- Orlando, FL
- Oklahoma City, OK
- Miami, FL
- Austin, TX
- Tampa, FL
- San Francisco
- New York
#12 You’re the king of budgeting.
When moving out of your parent’s house, many things will change, and one of them is your spending habits.
No longer can you blow your entire paycheck on a Friday night, or buy that sexy but ridiculously expensive Gucci belt to flex on the Gram.
With newly acquired bills that must be paid every month, you now must be conscious of your spending and develop some kind of budgeting skills.
If you’re budgeting skills aren’t already sharp, I’d recommend that you make a table of your personal bills like the one below. It shows the date each bill is due, the name of the bill, and the amount to pay. Try to keep the bills on the table to a minimum!
#13 You’re prepared to struggle!
“Am I ready to move out?”, well, are you prepared to struggle?
Up to this point, you haven’t really struggled financially. Your parents have been carrying the load. But, Ooohhh… how that will change… and you must be prepared!
With all the things that could go wrong financially;
- economy crashing
- A medical emergency
- Getting fired
- Getting in trouble with the law (lawyer fees)
- A baby (just kidding, but not really)
Your extra income after you pay your bills could shrink drastically, or disappear altogether, leaving you in the infamous FINANCIAL STRUGGLE.
So if you don’t feel like you’re ready to participate in a ramen noodle and water diet, then reconsider moving out.
How to move out checklist
- Have Credit
- Score of 620 or more
- Or be prepared with a Cosigner
- Look for places Online
- Zillow, Craigslist, etc.
- Call before and ask about eligibility requirements
- Go see places and apply
- Application costs ($30-100)
- Make sure you have for moving costs
- First and Last months’ rent
- Rental insurance
- Pet fees
- Installation fees (internet, water, etc.)
- Moving truck
- Moving materials
- Plan a moving day
- Ask for the day off at work
- Make sure you have a buddy to help
- Buy remaining home items
- Bathroom products
- Kitchen products
- Clean the place before the move
- Move in!
How to move out of parent’s house with no money?
So it’s urgent, you’re SO ready to move out of your parents’ house!
I wouldn’t recommend moving out without thinking it through and planning first…
But I get it, things happen…
Here are a few options for moving out with no money.
- Ask another family member if you could stay with them for a while
- Move out with a friend and pay them later
- Leave for the military
- Live in your car for a while
- Apply for college scholarship that covers housing
- Find a job that gives free housing
- cruise ship
- park ranger
Well, there ya go… Those were the 13 signs you’re ready to move out and the procedures on how to move out. If you displayed a few of those signs (more than 2 or 3), then go ahead and make your move. No point in waiting any longer.
Share this article with your friends or anyone who has encountered the thought of moving out. And let me know your thoughts on this article and any tips you may want to share. Good-luck!